Excerpt from Conflictish Insta. post.
“Here’s a little tough love. We spend a lot of time talking about other people, how subjective they can be, how much they mislabel, misunderstand us, how they manipulate and gaslight us, and all of that is real. It’s a problem. But let’s be all the way honest. Sometimes the problem isn’t them, sometimes it’s us.”
“Sometimes the biggest obstacle in our life is our unwillingness to take responsibility for how we behave. It’s not what they said, it’s that we don’t want to hear it. It’s not how they handled it, it’s that we don’t want to face it. And we’ll brush off feedback because it’s uncomfortable.”
“Sometimes we ignore correction because it’s inconvenient. And we’ll tell ourselves, they just don’t get me, instead of asking, what if I’m the one who needs to get it? Sometimes your greatest enemy is your inner me. Dodging accountability doesn’t erase the issue. Refusing to acknowledge your own flaws doesn’t make them disappear.”
“If we always see the problem as somebody else, then we’ll never do the work to change ourselves. Growth starts with ownership, and maturity means being willing to say, that’s all me. It doesn’t mean that other people aren’t a problem, right? It means that you could be a bigger problem.”
“Transformation happens when we start making adjustments. And at some point, we have to stop making excuses and start making changes. If we want to see better, then we have to be better. It starts with us.”
Here’s my two cents worth, instead of complaining or venting (after the fact and indirectly) about someone you consider the problem, when you could actually be the problem, why not use SpatzAI, and object (in real-time and direct), and find out objectively who really is the problem.
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