Imagine if we all agreed that we can openly question each other’s sincerity?
Well, believe it or not, but that is what I think we were born to do and what the best of our friends do for us and we do for them.
To me, this is the basis of what conversation is for and what we were born for and why our species is on the improve because of it. Yes, it is the reason for our existence, in my opinion. The meaning of life!
What will we get out of it? Good question. Sometimes a headache but most times, if done well, and within agreed-to parameters, questioning each other’s sincerity should result in us being “better” and ultimately help create a better world.
Next are these parameters…..
I believe that the underlying purpose of conversation is for practicing. Practicing what you may ask? Well, at first as a child to learn the basics of English through conversation and as an adult to renew and hone our skills in English but also in the art of conversation, itself, and potentially even the mastering of it, unbeknownst to most of us.
Who would have thought you could have a master class in conversation but I think it is something lacking in our education system. I mean we need to LEARN English even as a natural English speaker. So why not learn and master the art of conversation by some sort of master class. I did take a class called Clear Thinking which I suppose is the closest thing to this.
If you scoff at this thought of mastering the art of conversation then maybe you should ask your nearest and dearest how well you are actually doing….ha. You might get a surprise.
My latest thought on the purpose of conversation is simply for practice.
“Practice?” I hear you say. Yes. Just go into any group and listen to us practicing away.
The way I see it is that we make millions of tiny decision a week, literally thousands daily. most of them are so tiny that we don’t even realise that we are making them.
But occasionally we make big or very big ones and these need more attention. I believe we are practicing for making these bigger decisions. Most of these big decisions we like to get advice for but this advice can be insincere or even downright corrupt, with the blind leading the blind and so I think that we are practicing how to tell the sincerity of the participants, ourselves included.
I believe the best way that we can do this is by assessing the integrity of the information supplied contributing to its consistency and accuracy.
Of course, not only is conversation for practicing to assess the integrity of new information but also for making sure of the integrity of previous decision.
If this is true, then knowing this could open up new tools and skills for our next conversation…..maybe!