Rethinking Workplace Bullying: What If You Both Are the Problem?

When faced with a difficult colleague or an uncomfortable workplace situation, it’s easy to label someone as the “bully.” But what if we flipped the script? What if, instead of focusing on who’s at fault, we considered the possibility that they might see you as the bully?

I believe that it’s worth reflecting on this idea because, let’s face it, nobody likes to admit they are the problem. Think about it—have you ever met anyone who openly claims they were the bully? Most people genuinely believe they’re in the right, and in the heat of workplace tension, it’s easy for perspectives to become skewed.

Maybe the reality isn’t about a single “bad guy” at all. Perhaps it’s better to view the situation as a shared conflict or micro-conflict—something both of you may have contributed to in differing degrees. As my dear old mum used to say, “It takes two to tango.” And she may well be right at times: both parties might have contributed to the micro-conflict.

This doesn’t mean ignoring unreasonable behavior or excusing it. Instead, it’s about taking a step back and looking at the situation more objectively. What if, instead of focusing on blame, we focused on objecting to the specific behavior and achieving a resolution?

That’s where SpatzAI comes in. Designed to tackle workplace micro-conflicts, SpatzAI provides the tools for fair and structured conversations, helping teams navigate these tricky situations with clarity and accountability. By allowing both parties to voice their perspectives and encouraging collaborative problem-solving, SpatzAI creates an environment where fairness and respect can thrive.

So, next time you find yourself in a tense situation, don’t ask, “Who’s the bully?” Ask, “How can we resolve this together?” With SpatzAI, you can turn workplace friction into an opportunity for growth.

Fairer teamwork starts here. Are you ready to tango?