The Spatz and SpatzAI Protocols

I recently had a conversation with a client and it went something like this:

ME:
Thanks for the conversation Adrian, that will give me some food for thought. Funny how the two subjects of relationships and AI seem to go hand in hand;

So my summary of our conversation is to NEGOTIATE BEFORE you or her do anything. And to negotiate effectively you will both need an agreed-to plan for what is fair and unfair method of making proposals. This plan that I have for myself is no browbeating or unfair naysaying, and basically no anger or I will object in 3 phases And that is it.

Client:
Haha yes exactly…!
Can you write this on more technical terms? Browbeating or unfair naysaying.

ME:
Well you see i am hesitant to because I think that should be your job between you and the next relationship. However, things like, starting a sentence with “Can you….?” versus, “you can… ” But at the same time rhetorical questions are no accepted by me and my brother Steve; like “why do you always…” (notice how the absolute and dogmatic is imbedded in the “always” or “never” etc).

Being able to catch these and agree on them and then caution object to them in the 3 phases is the key I think but getting a girl to agree to this concept or anyone for that matter is going to be difficult because there is no positive results of it working other than keeping me out to trouble with no complaints. Maybe we were all meant to stay single ha!

Ok, I will plug this conversation into SpatzAI GPT and see what it comes up with:

SpatzAI Response:

To add technical terms and structure to your negotiation strategies and address behaviors that are not acceptable, we can outline a detailed framework based on the Spatz intervention model. This model can be applied not just in personal relationships but also in professional negotiations or team discussions. Here’s how it can be structured:

Negotiation Framework Based on SpatzAI Principles

1. Establishing Ground Rules:

• Fair Proposal Making: Establish a set of agreed-upon rules for making proposals. This should include using language that invites collaboration rather than demands or coerces. For instance, replace “You should…” with “I suggest…” or “What if we consider…”
• Avoiding Absolutes: Ban the use of absolutes like “always” or “never” in discussions, as they can unfairly generalize behaviors and aren’t constructive.

2. Identifiable Behaviors for Using the Spatz Protocol:

Unwanted or Untoward Behavior Not to be Accepted

• Browbeating: Aggressively insisting on one’s stance without considering the other party’s perspective.
• Unfair Naysaying: Immediately dismissing ideas without fair consideration or constructive feedback.
• Manipulative Questions: Using rhetorical questions or questions loaded with assumptions (e.g., “Why do you always…?”) that don’t foster constructive dialogue.
• Overly Dogmatic Statements: Statements that shut down open dialogue by asserting one’s view as the only correct perspective without room for discussion.
• Anger and Personal Attacks: Expressing anger in a way that becomes personal or derogatory towards the other individual, moving beyond the issue at hand to attack character.
• Refusal to Acknowledge Other Perspectives: Consistently refusing to consider or acknowledge the other party’s points, proposals, or feelings, indicating a breakdown in the negotiation process.

3. Mechanisms for Addressing Behaviors:

• Each phase (Caution, Objection, Stop) provides a structured response and acknowledgement to these behaviors.
  • 1. Caution: Serve as verbal reminders of the ground rules and a simple acknowledgment required. If unresolved escalate to an objection.
  • 2. Object: Requires a simple apology and a commitment to adjust it.
  • 3. Stop: Indicates a recalcitrance of the agreed-upon negotiation rules, necessitating a significant response, potentially pausing negotiations to reassess the approach and an acceptable apology to rectify negotiations.
• For the more advanced business and work environment we recommend using the SpatzAI app and platform protocols for teams.

4. Implementation:

• Agreement on Terms: Before negotiations begin, agree on the terms of engagement and the behaviors that trigger an implementation of the Spatz protocol.
• Regular Check-ins: Schedule moments within the negotiation process to assess adherence to the rules and adjust as necessary.
• Feedback Loop: Implement a feedback mechanism post-negotiation to discuss what worked, what didn’t, and how the process can be improved for future interactions.

5. Conclusion:

• Reflective Practice: Use the outcomes of negotiations as learning points for refining the ground rules and behaviors for future discussions.
• Mutual Respect and Understanding: The ultimate goal is to foster an environment where all parties feel heard, respected, and valued, contributing to more effective and positive negotiations.

This structured approach to negotiation aims to create a respectful and productive environment by clearly defining unacceptable behaviors and providing a mechanism to address them constructively during difficult conversations.