We Object to Misbehavior in Real-time

The Civility123 toolkit to tackle aggressive and submissive misbehavior

Prevent Vs Object IN REAL-TIME
We can’t PREVENT misbehavior; it is a given. It WILL happen, on occasion between people, especially when we disagree. When our ideas are threatened, we can become defensive and offensive, resulting in angry, and uncivil behavior. We can, however, OBJECT to this misbehavior in real-time, as it occurs rather than complaining about the person later. For this reason, we have designed Object123. A simple toolkit to tackle misbehavior, in real-time, thus nipping any potential for long-term disputes in the bud.

Disagreeing VS how we disagree
Firstly, we understand the difference between disagreeing versus HOW we disagree during a disagreement.

  • We DISAGREE with the idea or content as per usual
  • But we OBJECT, in real-time to HOW someone disagrees (misbehaves).

In effect, we are having two conversations simultaneously. If you take offense to how the other is behaving during the conversation or in a meeting, you can switch (alt-tab) to Object123, and use 1.CAUTION to slow, 2.OBJECT to prepare, or ultimately 3.STOP to get the dispute reviewed by your peers in the organization.

What object123 looks like

To CAUTION! the offender you simply say “I would like to caution you” and on what grounds. You should receive an acceptable acknowledgment of the offender’s misbehavior or a satisfactory explanation that justifies their behavior. If you are not satisfied, you can escalate to an objection by informing the offender that they will receive a written objection by email shortly.

To OBJECT! to the offender’s misbehavior you would go to the Object Page after verbally cautioning the offender and expect to receive a written reply of either an acceptable simple apology or a satisfactory explanation for their misbehavior. If you are still not satisfied, the you can escalate to a stop where you can post your dispute on the Disputz Review Network.

To STOP! the offender you simply send your last reply to the offender informing them of your dissatisfaction and that you are posting the dispute on the Disputz Review Network site, where both your versions of the dispute will be on display to be reviewed by your work colleagues within the organization. From the feedback you both receive either one of you will owe the other a 3 step acceptable apology of: 

1. What was said/done, 

2. Why it was said and 

3. What the offender will do next time.

The Disputz Review Social Network Platform (Coming soon)

CIVILITY LIVE CONFERENCING & ADJUDICATION

Final live conferencing with peers to adjudicate

FINAL LIVE VIDEO CONFERENCE
Both the accuser and the accused would have a video conferencing meeting with up to 8 peers within the organisation to participate and adjudicate.
Failure to resolve the dispute at this stage would require the one deemed the offender, by your peers to resign. This is done by tallying up the votes using the democratic process to ultimately resolve the dispute.

Of course, all participants would need to agree to use the Civility123 toolkit beforehand, and it would apply to every member of the organization, from the Janitor to the CEO.

Civility123 – a workplace behavior toolkit

2 thoughts on “We Object to Misbehavior in Real-time

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  1. So, what if we just made a simple agreement that you take care of you and I take care of me? Then, if I felt offended, from now on, how you gave me feedback (or for anything else) I would object, in real-time, to your delivery, and you do likewise. That way I only have to think for one person, me and you would only have to think for one person, you. Wouldn’t life be so much simpler? I call this approach Object123 and I would love your feedback on it.

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