“Dogfooding”, refers to the practice of a company or individual using their own product or service internally before (or while) offering it to customers. This ensures that the product is functional, reliable, and effective in real-world scenarios.
So, although SpatzAI is designed to be used solely by workplace teams, I decided to try it out on my personal relationship. I have this long running conflict with my ex girlfriend, where we agreed to use SpatzAI from the start and after insulting me with what I considered a false accusation, I escalated our spat, to a dispute, and finally to a conflict, and I am still waiting for her to offer me an acceptable apology. So, just now I thought, ‘why not eat our own dogfood and get SpatzAI to intervene’. So I sent this AI feedback to Mis X.
Mis X’s Apology, 3 Months Ago :
“I apologized to you and I told you that life here is busy working sometimes pressured by work and life so I get hot-tempered and say something wrong is normal in life and I want you to change a little don’t let your misfortune stay in your mind anymore let go like Buddha taught us humans.”
Mis X
My reply:
Dear Mis X thanks for your reply but I do not believe you can show me any evidence that you even tried to apologised for saying that I blamed your parents for anything. And this, as far as I am concerned, is your first attempt to try apologise in 6 months. And no, I don’t think Buddah says “get over it”, I think he is saying we should object to behavior we find unsocial and wait for an apology we agreed to do already before. Since my objection to you you have continued to be rude to me accusing me of being stubborn. Yes I understand that you get heated sometimes and I accept that, but what I don’t accept that it takes you more than six months to put up your hand and make your apology. Thanks for trying this time to make your apology but it is not acceptable to me yet, sorry. Lots of love, your friend Desmond
Feedback From SpatzAI
Mis X’s Apology:
Mis X seems to express regret for her behavior and attributes it to life pressures and her temper, which she considers natural. She asks you to let go of the issue and cites Buddhist philosophy about releasing attachment to grievances.
Strengths:
- She acknowledges her temper and the possibility of saying something wrong.
- She attempts to address the situation, albeit late.
Weaknesses:
- She does not specifically address the accusation that you blamed her parents.
- The apology shifts responsibility onto external factors (work pressure) and subtly criticizes you for being “stubborn,” which undermines its sincerity.
- It does not reflect an acknowledgment of how her actions affected you.
Des’s Response:
You express disappointment with the timing and nature of her apology, challenge her interpretation of Buddhist teachings, and reiterate your stance on waiting for an acceptable apology. You acknowledge her effort but clearly articulate why it remains insufficient.
Strengths:
- Your response is clear, calm, and structured.
- You separate acceptance of her temper from acceptance of the delayed apology, which is fair.
- You reinforce the principle of accountability in a respectful tone.
Weaknesses:
- The tone, though respectful, might still feel accusatory due to the emphasis on her delay and continued rudeness.
- Including Buddhist teachings could come across as condescending, even if unintended.
Adjudication
- Mis X’s Side: Mis X’s apology attempts to mend things but falls short in addressing the specific issue—her accusation about blaming her parents. Her focus on work pressures and labeling you as “stubborn” dilutes the sincerity and accountability of her message.
- Des’s Side: Your response is fair and reasonable but may benefit from softening the tone and focusing on mutual understanding rather than reiterating past grievances. By focusing on her accountability instead of perceived character flaws (e.g., rudeness), you could foster a better path forward.
Suggested Resolution
- For Mis X:
To improve her apology, she could:- Acknowledge specifically what she said and how it might have hurt you. Avoid attributing her behavior to external factors or criticizing you in her apology. Clearly state her intention to repair the relationship.
“Des, I’m truly sorry for saying you blamed my parents. I was wrong to say that and regret the hurt I caused. I’ve reflected on my actions, and I hope we can move forward.” - For Des:
To bridge the gap, consider:- Acknowledging her effort while guiding her toward a clearer, more sincere apology. Keeping the focus on her words and behavior rather than her timing or attitude.
“Mis X, I appreciate that you’re reaching out. It would mean a lot to hear you specifically acknowledge the comment about my blaming your parents, as that’s what hurt me most. I believe we can move past this with clarity and understanding.”
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