I think it is pretty simple really. Yes we all need to wake up to ourselves and our bias we have in our own favor and therefore our bias we have against others. Understanding that we all truly have a blind spot when it comes to seeing this bias depending on the level of that... Continue Reading →

So, imagine if we knew the real reason for conversation and then used it more consciously rather than getting the fewer benefits subconsciously? Just like we are now more aware of why we eat and what we should eat means we can stop eating junk (if we want to) and eat more nutritious meals. We... Continue Reading →

So, what is conversation really for or one of the main reasons? I say conversation is for assessing. Assessing the sincerity of the person and the accuracy that they report any information. That is, also assessing ourselves and our own information during this process. Of course it should be enjoyable and it should kill time... Continue Reading →

  Imagine if we had an agreement to apologize when we got angry, ignored the other, lied or made a false accusation. Not only an apology but an agreeable apology. One where the receiver would need to agree to the apology offered before it was accepted. This would revolutionize a relationship, in my view. In... Continue Reading →

I don't know about you but I think conversation is for making sure, continually. "Making sure of what",  I hear you say. Well, I think "conversation is for making sure that it is either true or false that we either agree or disagree". Now this is easy to see if it is true or false... Continue Reading →

I think some people marry to “make sure” and think that’s it. But maybe marriage should be about making sure everyday.....making sure that it’s either true or false that we either agree or disagree. No room for resting on our laurels....but does sound like a lot of work.

I think we have to be careful and not assume someone is lying just because it sounds outrageous, unbelievable or downright wrong. I think we cannot rely on our prejudices, presumptions and biases when it comes to accusing someone of lying as it is too serious an accusation. Unfortunately we have to do the hard... Continue Reading →

What is the most objective institution in our society? I would say the legal and judicial system, although it has many weaknesses. Marriage is one of the least objective, in my view and lasts, on average 9 years in Australia. Sport is a combination of both with subjective supporters and players with the benefit of... Continue Reading →

Maslow was famous for creating this chart of hierarchical needs to survive. That is, we are all making sure we have 1 through to 5, in that order of priority. What if we changed this dramatically and turned the pyramid upside down changing the focus of parenting. Having parents that can provide 1, 2, 3,... Continue Reading →

So when we first meet someone we are usually making sure we are liked and if it was an attractive girl/boy we are making sure we get some sex, if we are lucky....maybe. There are lots of other agendas, as well, that we can have for making sure of, but I think mine was always... Continue Reading →