I suggest that it works like this: NegotiationsBeing in a relationship or partnership of any sort means we will have to negotiate, propose, and agree to a countless number of issues; that crop up from day to day for the life of the relationship.Free and FairIf we want a free and fair negotiation, we will... Continue Reading →
Accountability Will Outshine Any Ego
How do we deal with John's misbehavior and ego? Imagine we are in a company design meeting. You are new to the company but speak up with your suggested solution for a long standing problem on the company's website? John, a leading Tech Designer stands up shouts out; "Yecch! That won't work!"What happens next could... Continue Reading →
Stop-the-Line Conversation
Stop-the-Line Conversation, using Object123 "Stop-the-Line manufacturing is a technique introduced by Taiichi Ohno (of Toyota Production System fame) in which every employee on the assembly line has a responsibility to push a big red button that stops everything whenever they notice a defect on the assembly line." Initially, people did not understand the idea as... Continue Reading →
Integrity is Not Blind
I prefer all leaders and followers, for that matter, to qualify their thoughts as opinions rather than dress them up as facts. For example, I used “I prefer” but I could have said what “I think” or “in my opinion”, etc etc. This would open us all up to be more easily challenged, I believe,... Continue Reading →
The Radical Principle of Object123
I will try explain the simple but radical principle of Object123. Instead of drawing up hundreds of dot points on what to do, what not to do and basically how to behave in your organisation, you simply start with Object123 and that is it. Basically it becomes your very own AI for describing how to... Continue Reading →
We Object to Misbehavior in Real-time
The Civility123 toolkit to tackle aggressive and submissive misbehavior Prevent Vs Object IN REAL-TIME We can't PREVENT misbehavior; it is a given. It WILL happen, on occasion between people, especially when we disagree. When our ideas are threatened, we can become defensive and offensive, resulting in angry, and uncivil behavior. We can, however, OBJECT to... Continue Reading →
Documented Disagreement & Dispute on Linkedin With a Principles Follower
Desmond Sherlock: But like all families Ray, we can get offensive behavior. What Social Just Culture do you have in place for your team members to use to address when someone inevitably treats them poorly?Or do they just have to suck it up and take one for the team? This is not about disagreeing, it... Continue Reading →
How to Resolve Disagreements Before they Become Disputes
I have a possible solution to resolving disagreements before they become disputes, that you can try without any expensive therapy SPLIT THE DISAGREEMENT into two parts.The content of the disagreement andThe behavior while delivering the content. Then DISAGREE with the content but OBJECT to the behavior of the delivery when one finds it offensive. Do... Continue Reading →
Disagree Vs Object
Disagree with Content - Object with How the Content is delivered in Real-time Here is the tip of the century (my view) or what I have called aSocial Just Culture When we are having a disagreement don't allow ourselves to get confused or sucked into a personal dispute. Only DISAGREE with WHAT (content) someone says.NEVER... Continue Reading →
Social Just Culture
We Believe Every Organisation Should have a Social Just Culture Such as Object123 Psychological Safety:The Psychological Safety movement has been getting some legs over the last 5 years since a few articles came out as a result of Google's research into what makes a successful team at Google. "Psychological safety is being able to show... Continue Reading →
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