Another point for exposing our unresolved conflict is that it acts as a great incentive to ensure we all use our new and radical toolkit available to resolve our spats before they become our exposed conflicts.
Resolve the Disagreement Now or Solve the Problem Later
The best way to solve a problem or mistake is to resolve the disagreement that is likely to create it.Tweet
Play the Ball Not Play the Man
There are not too many examples of idioms that work as well as this one, I reckon, but as an ex-soccer player, I would say that. However, there is a bit more to this idea that meets the eye. The best soccer players play the ball (PB) because they can. Those who are not so skillful will... Continue Reading →
Psychological Safety Vs Psychological Protections
It seems that everyone is talking about Psychological Safety nowadays. Still, no one seems to be talking so much about the basic protections needed to create such an environment. "Safety" seems to be more the state of mind we are aspiring for, and "protections" appear to be actual steps taken to achieve safety. The protections to create... Continue Reading →
Shield of Protection
Most authors on organizational behavior, such as Amy Edmondson, Timothy Clark, and Kim Scott, seem only to offer psychological insights on how team members should behave towards each other rather than specifying how to actually protect members from misbehaving and toxic managers. Imagine if every organization was obliged to provide a standard "shield of protection"... Continue Reading →
Disagreement Vs Dispute
Disagreements, to me, are essential, and we should have far more of them, but a disputes can quickly erupt from a disagreement because one or more will start to "play the man, not the ball." It is when we get personal that disputes arise, I believe.Listen carefully to any disagreement, and you will find that... Continue Reading →
Exercise Caution When We Disagree!
I just saw this sign (slightly modified) in the city of Darwin. It occurred to me that we are bombarded with instructions to be cautious for hundreds of things, and rightly so. However, I have never seen a sign for the one caution for a behavior that I believe is responsible for more deaths and... Continue Reading →
Co-founders, Build Your Own Dispute Network
We use Disputz.com as our Founder Dispute Network "65% of startups fail because of co-founder conflict"PROF. NOAM WASSERMAN – THE FOUNDER’S DILEMMAS Anyone that has ever been in a startup will know that it is challenging. It’s sort of like being in a Wild West movie, with no natural justice system and everyone afraid that there might... Continue Reading →
Harassing in Startups
I have a simple idea. Let's make all forms of harassing in startups (not just sexual harassment) unacceptable. If all forms of harassing in startup teams really was unacceptable, then I believe all co-founders would be using the structure needed that empowers all team members to tackle such misbehavior, in real-time.. Imagine if all team... Continue Reading →
Our Dispute Culture – 3 Steps to Stamp Out Co-founder Conflict
What is a dispute culture? It is a culture that helps us stamp our team conflict. We will inevitably disagree in a startup team, as we are all individuals, and we all think differently, whether we like to admit it or not. Our dispute culture rekindles and empowers us to disagree, even more, by setting... Continue Reading →