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The DTOUR Principal
My brother and I use the DTOUR Principal for running our business partnership and personal communications. DTOUR stands for Dare To Object Using Regulators, and we use it to help moderate any disputes during potentially stressful conversations, discussions and negotiations ie. Dare to object in real-time and direct, rather than complain, after the fact and indirectly, ie. back biting and... Continue Reading →
A Worrying Trend
The Conversation What if the sole purpose of conversation was to reduce or assuage our worries? Well that is what I believe is the actual purpose of conversation. Maybe all mental sickness occurs because we don’t get all that help to ease our worries that we need. Why? Because we haven't made that agreement explicitly... Continue Reading →
Made to OBjECT
Summary of OBjECT - 7 Agreeable ways to be Objectionable as using the 6 principles of the book Made to Stick 1. Simple, find the core:The core idea of this book is to OBjECT and that we were born to object, and often. Most people (adults) do not object directly, in real-time but prefer to... Continue Reading →
My Theory of Relative Objectivity
Maybe objectivity can only be measured relatively, in the context of a conversation and not by measuring the person's objectivity. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango, and whatever level of objectivity exists, maybe we can only see it within the space of a conversation, where it can be more accurately measured. Preparing... Continue Reading →
Domestic SewerRage
How to stop the scourge of domestic rage and violence.
The Object Principle
The Object Principle ie the ultimate principle of this dissertation, I think, is to get a group to actively agree and encourage the individual to expose what values or principles that are not in common, within. It is in the exposing of these uncommon principles within organisations where all the trouble lies, I think. I... Continue Reading →
Agreements Come Before Collaboration…maybe.
I recently had a discussion with my brother on agreements and collaboration in relationships. He posed that collaboration came first and I posited that agreements did. In the end he did concede that in order to have explicit collaboration we are going to need explicit agreements. But granted to be able to get such explicit... Continue Reading →
Check Mating
Funny, there are so many agreed-to specific and intricate rules of engagement in chess, even down to the very second one takes to making a move.....so too, I believe, couples should be continuing to develop, agree and re-agree to their own rules of engagement before engaging in any disputes. Chess is a wonderful game of... Continue Reading →
Believing in Fictional Narratives
From the book Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari. I’ve understood this idea of fictional agreements for a while now. ie that money is an agreement. Even Dong, the currency for Vietnam is a derivative of “dong y” meaning to agree. And the creation of our agreements for treating each other etc. but the problem with fictional... Continue Reading →
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