Hi,I was just listening to the latest complaints raised by Australian swimmers in the media and I thought I would contribute and try help. I know this is a long shot but Swimming Australia and most organizations obviously need some radical process to prevent these venting experiences from offended members. A way to transform from... Continue Reading →
Let’s Agree to Object?
"Let's agree to disagree", is the famous cleché used to stop disagreements, that have become an impasse.But what if we had a better solution such as "Let's agree to object"? That is "lets keep the discussion open but if either of us feel threatened by the other's imposition, then we can simply object to the... Continue Reading →
Let’s Agree to Object?
We have all heard the cliche "Let's agree to disagree". In my view this is a cop out. The person is basically proposing the following: "Let's call it quits on our discussion as it will be too difficult to resolve and if we continue or even postpone our discussion it may result in one or... Continue Reading →
Tackling Misbehavior in Real-time
We Tackle Misbehavior in Real-time If a soccer player gave away a free-kick during a tackle, you wouldn't wait until the end of the game to blow the whistle. You wouldn't wait until the end of the first half to blow the whistle. Of course, you would blow the whistle instantly in real-time to penalize... Continue Reading →
Caution! – Penalty! – Disqualification!
What if we agreed that there were explicit rules of engagement while having a disagreement? And also agreed that there would be consequences if we infringed upon these said rules.
Documented Disagreement & Dispute on Linkedin With a Principles Follower
Desmond Sherlock: But like all families Ray, we can get offensive behavior. What Social Just Culture do you have in place for your team members to use to address when someone inevitably treats them poorly?Or do they just have to suck it up and take one for the team? This is not about disagreeing, it... Continue Reading →
How to Resolve Disagreements Before they Become Disputes
I have a possible solution to resolving disagreements before they become disputes, that you can try without any expensive therapy SPLIT THE DISAGREEMENT into two parts.The content of the disagreement andThe behavior while delivering the content. Then DISAGREE with the content but OBJECT to the behavior of the delivery when one finds it offensive. Do... Continue Reading →
You Started it!
Why is it that when we are offended by someone’s behavior we end up being even more offensive in reply? Because they started it, simple. Of course this is a childish reply and as adults we would never be seen giving such an excuse for our offensive behavior but deep down I think that is... Continue Reading →
Object123
Our Psychological Safety Framework Object123 is a self-help tool for resolving disagreements before they become disputes. CAUTION Acknowledge Eg: "OK granted"If one is upset by the other's misbehavior or anger they can pause the conversation & caution the offender in real-time and he/she would need to either acknowledge or challenge the caution or it can... Continue Reading →
Relationship Caution Protocols
Relationship Caution Protocols One of the most financially successful sports globally, without argument, is soccer with the top three teams in the world being valued at more than $12 billion. The game is controlled by standard rules and a referee using a whistle along with yellow and red card caution protocols. When an infringement occurs... Continue Reading →
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