We have all heard the cliche "Let's agree to disagree". In my view this is a cop out. The person is basically proposing the following: "Let's call it quits on our discussion as it will be too difficult to resolve and if we continue or even postpone our discussion it may result in one or... Continue Reading →
Object123
Object123 is the first tool in the Civility123 toolkit that we use to address incivility or misbehavior in the workplace. It consists of a seamless three step process that we use to address when we deem that someone is offensive. Consisting of: 1. Caution the offender with a simple verbal caution ie "I would like... Continue Reading →
Workplace Civility
We can’t PREVENT misbehavior or incivility in the workplace; it is a given. On occasion, it WILL happen between colleagues or between managers and team members, especially when we disagree. When our ideas are threatened, we can become defensive and offensive, resulting in angry or uncivil behavior. We can, however, tackle this behavior rather than... Continue Reading →
Looking for Objectivity? Object!
Independent Peer Review Process Takes Us Closer To Objectivity The scientific process of an independent peer review has been responsible for getting us to the scientific progress level that we all can benefit from today. What is missing is a similar process applied to our social discourse to achieve such levels of objectivity. Could it... Continue Reading →
Victim Blaming
When it comes to the abuse of a victim, the politically correct squad has set up what seems to me to be a barrier or no-touch zone for looking at the victim's role in the abuse. I know this is very controversial, but I am willing to broach this subject here, at the risk of... Continue Reading →
Tackling Misbehavior in Real-time
We Tackle Misbehavior in Real-time If a soccer player gave away a free-kick during a tackle, you wouldn't wait until the end of the game to blow the whistle. You wouldn't wait until the end of the first half to blow the whistle. Of course, you would blow the whistle instantly in real-time to penalize... Continue Reading →
Caution! – Penalty! – Disqualification!
What if we agreed that there were explicit rules of engagement while having a disagreement? And also agreed that there would be consequences if we infringed upon these said rules.
Why Have Rules of Engagement?
I suggest that it works like this: NegotiationsBeing in a relationship or partnership of any sort means we will have to negotiate, propose, and agree to a countless number of issues; that crop up from day to day for the life of the relationship.Free and FairIf we want a free and fair negotiation, we will... Continue Reading →
How to Really Tame a Shrew
Is it possible that we were and are tamed by conversation? I suspect so. I also suspect some of us have been tamed more than others, which would explain why some adults are still almost feral with their poor behavior and ill-temper. Never fear, however, as I have come up with a simple tool to... Continue Reading →
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