Listen to any two people in a heated dispute and one thing I believe you are bound to notice, and that is their surety that they are right and the other is wrong. No doubts! You can quickly tell by the absolute and dogmatic language they are using. No prefacing their statements with "I think.."... Continue Reading →
What if we agreed that there were explicit rules of engagement while having a disagreement? And also agreed that there would be consequences if we infringed upon these said rules.
I have a possible solution to resolving disagreements before they become disputes, that you can try without any expensive therapy SPLIT THE DISAGREEMENT into two parts.The content of the disagreement andThe behavior while delivering the content. Then DISAGREE with the content but OBJECT to the behavior of the delivery when one finds it offensive. Do... Continue Reading →
Why is it that when we are offended by someone’s behavior we end up being even more offensive in reply? Because they started it, simple. Of course this is a childish reply and as adults we would never be seen giving such an excuse for our offensive behavior but deep down I think that is... Continue Reading →
Our Psychological Safety Framework Object123 is a self-help tool for resolving disagreements before they become disputes. CAUTION Acknowledge Eg: "OK granted"If one is upset by the other's misbehavior or anger they can pause the conversation & caution the offender in real-time and he/she would need to either acknowledge or challenge the caution or it can... Continue Reading →
Relationship Caution Protocols One of the most financially successful sports globally, without argument, is soccer with the top three teams in the world being valued at more than $12 billion. The game is controlled by standard rules and a referee using a whistle along with yellow and red card caution protocols. When an infringement occurs... Continue Reading →
The Object Proposal is my attempt to get a level playing field for personal and business relationships. It allows us to deal directly and in real-time with controversial issues when we don't want to be walking on "eggshells" to avoid the resultant disagreements, arguments and conflict that can come with them. Forming the Object Agreement... Continue Reading →
Steeped in history, tradition and mystery is the whole marriage gambit. But when we look logically at what it all means it doesn't seem to make much sense.I have been going through this process at the fringes for the last 3 years and am starting to get a grip on the whole process and believe... Continue Reading →