What causes conflict? I believe what happens is that most people allow the first, second and even the third offense to take place and only then react or object but by then the reaction can and usually is so disproportionate to the offence. We have all been there and suffered this type of wrath, for... Continue Reading →
Three Phases of Objecting
Few people if any really know the difference between objecting and disagreeing, until it is explained to them and then it makes perfect sense. Please tell me if I was wrong and leave a comment below if you knew. Even in wikidiff it doesn’t clearly explain it. The difference is, I think, that we object... Continue Reading →
TOP Agreement
After 35 years of contemplating and investigating relationship disputes I have come up with the simplest of solutions to reduce domestic violence, divorce and heated disputes in business and personal relationships. Yes, as grand as this claim is I am claiming that I have a formula proposal that I intend to prove over the next... Continue Reading →
Agree How to Agree
How ironic is this. The fact that we make hundreds of agreement with each other and yet we do not have an agreement on what an "agreement" is or means to us. You will be surprised to find out just how much you may differ on what an agreement means to you and the people... Continue Reading →
The Object Proposal
The Object Proposal is my attempt to get a level playing field for personal and business relationships. It allows us to deal directly and in real-time with controversial issues when we don't want to be walking on "eggshells" to avoid the resultant disagreements, arguments and conflict that can come with them. Forming the Object Agreement... Continue Reading →
Having an engagement proposal is crazy without a disengagement proposal.... Who can deny that all conversation is an exchange of some sort or another, from the exchange of pleasantries, "Nice day, isn't it?" to exchanging of proposals, "If I come back to you will you welcome me and marry me"The exchange in in the sharing... Continue Reading →
Our Proposal
My brother Steve and I have been working on our proposals for newer and improved agreements on our behavior for years now and here is an example of a shared proposal that we have agreed to. I am hoping to apply it within an even more personal relationship such as a marriage someday. We propose... Continue Reading →
The Engagement & The Proposal
Steeped in history, tradition and mystery is the whole marriage gambit. But when we look logically at what it all means it doesn't seem to make much sense.I have been going through this process at the fringes for the last 3 years and am starting to get a grip on the whole process and believe... Continue Reading →
Conversation Vs Negotiation
I guess you or I have never thought to ask what is the difference between a negotiation and a conversation, well I haven't to date, but just started thinking about it recently. A conversation is more personal, for example: if someone said "I want you to marry me" or "would you marry me", during a... Continue Reading →
My First Proposal
If I wanted to have a business relationship with you I would make you a business proposal. A proposal is not so much a question but the beginnings of a negotiation process where we state what we want and what we are willing to give in exchange. It is, as they say a quid pro... Continue Reading →
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